Destination Weddings – Endless Options

Destination weddings have become increasingly popular in recent years. So many people are trying to find the perfect location to make their special day even more memorable, and New Zealand has become a popular choice. A well liked choice for many international travellers is Auckland, New Zealand’s largest city. Planning a wedding in Auckland means that you will have access to every wedding related service imaginable from flowers, caterers, photographers to rental vehicles. No matter how extravagant or simple you plan your wedding in Auckland to be, you can be rest assured that anything is possible.

From beachfront hotels, luxurious ballrooms and banquet rooms to tropical island getaways, there is something for everyone in Auckland. Its amazing viaduct and numerous beaches and bays surrounding the city make it the perfect place if planning a beach or outdoor ceremony. If you are looking for something a little more private you are sure to fall in love with Waiheke Island. This tropical dreamland is only a short 30 minute ferry ride from downtown Auckland. Along with having all the conveniences of the city nearby, you will also have an unbeatable atmosphere and backdrop for celebrating your special day.

Planning the big day is not usually a straightforward task and can be even more difficult when you are from outside of the country. You can make the whole process flow more smoothly with the help of professionals. Begin by finding hotels or facilities that specialise in helping with weddings in Auckland. Working with a hotel or resort that can provide you with all the necessary skills and experience needed when hosting a wedding is much easier than working with a facility that doesn’t offer any professional assistance, especially when it comes to the planning and/or executing of the ceremony and reception. Also make sure that the establishment you are interested in can accommodate all of your guests so that people don’t have to travel back and forth between locations. It will make the entire day much easier and less stressful when people are already where they need to be for the event.

It is worth finding an establishment that specialises in weddings in Auckland. The have the experience and know-how to help make your day perfect. They often will take care of last minute details and little things like finding the cake and having it delivered, dealing with flower arrangements and delivery, and decorating the facilities that you are using. These services give you more time to focus on other elements, with less planning and preparation required before the event on your part. Remember to also ask for photographs of previous ceremonies, rooms, food arrangements and anything else you can think of. Make your destination wedding in Auckland, New Zealand an occasion to remember.

The Misconception on Virginity

“David, David! We are waiting for you and your wife in the sitting room. Don’t forget to come with the proof,” George, David’s father, said loudly outside his son’s bedroom.

Assembled in the sitting room were elders of the clan, uncles, aunts and David’s mother. The day before they had witnessed the colourful wedding of their son to Susan, a tall beautiful lady. This is the same one they were all gathered to ‘crown’ as their ‘new’ daughter. But first, “Had she passed the acid test?”

The people gathered in the sitting room were growing impatient. David’s mother broke the silence by mumbling something about David and his wife taking too long, and shuffled her feet towards her son’s bedroom to remind them of their critical obligation to the ‘clan’!
David, in response, asked to be given 2 minutes for they were still preparing themselves. “Mum, you know it has been a long night. We’ve hardly slept a wink.” Even in the heat of the moment, his mother understood, or so she thought, that that was a joke and laughed heartily, in spite of herself.

“Two minutes! We don’t have the whole day here. Your uncles and aunts have to travel back to their homes today. You know what I mean.”

Inside the room, David and his wife were confused. They didn’t know what to do. The white sheets they had been given the day before had no ‘foreign’ colour on them. There were no stains of blood on them. That alone proved to David that Susan had not been a virgin when he married her. David did not know what to think. His heart was in turmoil. Anger, confusion and a feeling that he had been lied to were the ingredients of the turmoil.

“David, sure as I told you earlier, I have never had sex with any other man apart from you. You’ve got to believe me,” Susan implored.

David shouted out, despite himself, “You lied to me you were a virgin! How many other guys have you ever slept with? Tell me, eh.” He said this as he menacingly edged towards her. Then came the strident bang on the door.

“David, we are running out of patience,” George said, rather angrily.

Without thinking, and amid the gentle sobs of his wife, David took the sheets and stormed out of the room. When the people gathered in the sitting room saw him, they sat upright and expectantly waited for good news. But one look at his face, they sensed trouble. His father nudged the clan elder who was in attendance to take it from there.

“David, go and bring your wife with you,” he said.

When both David and his wife were in front of them, the elder of the clan took the sheets and spread them on the sitting room floor. All three sheets were as white as they had been the day before. David’s parents were as wide-eyed as the other people present in the room. They had expected to see blood on the sheets to prove that Susan had been a virgin on her wedding day.

After a lengthy deliberation, it was agreed that Susan was not worthy to be their son’s wife thus she had to go.

“Susan, we are a respected family and will not agree to be party to the dishonour that your acceptance into this family would have brought us. So pack your bags and leave our house and our son,” David’s father pronounced the harsh judgement.

Susan had to leave, after all. One tumultuous day was the number of days their marriage had lasted.
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Such crude actions are driven by ignorance of the bare facts about what is ( and what is not) virginity. Virginity, in this context, is the state of having no sexual experience. Again, people wrongfully think that they can prove a lady’s virginity simply by ‘the production of blood during sexual intercourse’.

Even some of those who do not ‘produce’ blood during their ‘first’ sexual experiences are virgins. Here’s why I say so:-)

A hymen is the fold of skin partly closing the entrance to the sex organs of a virgin.
Thin Hymen: Most girls have a thin hymen with a hole of about 2 cm diameter. A man’s hard penis is 3 or 4 cm diameter, and so the hymen will stretch or break during first-sex. This may cause a little bleeding and pain.

No Hymen: Some girls are born without a hymen. So they have no bleeding during first sex.

Broken Hymen: Sometimes, a girl’s hymen breaks before marriage, and so she has no bleeding on her wedding night. There are two ways that a girl’s hymen can break:

a) Having sex

b) During sports such as horse riding or through the usage of menstrual tampons

So, really, there is no need to raise a fuss (i.e. , of course, if you don’t have the facts!) if your newly wedded wife does not bleed on your first wedding night. She may have broken her hymen during sports or may not have been born with one in place.

Virginity – Presence of the Hymen?

Recently I wrote a piece titled ‘The Misconception on Virginity’. As I was winding up the piece, my loving wife happened to come by my desk to see what I was writing. She read the first two sentences and decided to sit on the arm of my chair so that she could get the gist of the piece. All this while, my eyes were trained on her face. I was eager to know what she thought of the piece. She maintained a bland face and when she was through , she turned and faced me.

“Ritch, what would you have said if I had told you that I tore my hymen during sports in high school?” she asked me. “Would you not have raised a fuss?”

For once, I didn’t know what I would have done or even how I would have behaved. I smiled and brushed the question aside.

Let us look at another angle of this shooting match. To some people, virginity and presence of the hymen are one and the same thing. In the last piece, I tried to discredit that notion for there are other known reasons that could cause a virgin to have no hymen and thus not produce blood on the wedding day (or rather during the first sexual experience).

Most of the time we forget that there are other ways of sexual experience apart from vaginal penetration. For instance, there is oral sex on the one hand and anal sex on the other. The question that’s racking my mind: Should a woman who has engaged in either oral or anal sex but, however, ‘produces’ blood on her wedding night, be considered to have been a virgin on her wedding day?

I am made to understand that there are so many young women and ladies who have resorted to this form of ‘chastity’ to preserve their ‘virginity’ in Zanzibar (an Island off the East Coast of Africa). They engage in high scale ‘anal’ sex with their ‘boyfriends’ and some of them still crave ‘it’ when they eventually get married. Thus, most of these kind of women would receive a ‘barrage’ of adulation from their families and the parents of their husbands for having presented themselves unadulterated to their sons. If only the dark of the night could talk; it would tell of the ‘amazing’ actions of people who are held in high esteem. Such hypocrisy would be smashed to smithereens.

A character in Norman Mailer’s novel Harlot’s Ghost states that in Italy, an unmarried woman had to be “a maiden before and a martyr behind,” which implied that such women often resorted to anal sex, and anal sex was consistently painful (thus the usage of the word martyr).